Finding Your Way Back: Healing from Trauma with Self-Compassion.

Trauma Recovery

Naa Kwaamah Vanderpuye

10/11/20242 min read

Trauma can leave a deep imprint, shaking our mental well-being, straining our relationships, and clouding our overall sense of self. It's like a storm that disrupts the landscape of our lives. While the journey to recovery can feel like a long and winding road, it's crucial to remember that healing is absolutely possible. This isn't about "getting over it," but about building resilience, finding your inner strength, and rediscovering your sense of agency in a world that sometimes feels overwhelming.

Understanding the Terrain: What is Trauma?

Trauma isn't just the event itself, but the impact it has on our ability to cope. It's that overwhelming feeling when something deeply disturbing happens – something that challenges our sense of safety, control, and predictability. It is vital to remember that everyone's journey with trauma is unique. There's no "right" or "wrong" way to feel, and comparison is the thief of joy (and healing).

Stepping Stones to Healing: How to Begin

So, how do we start walking this path toward healing? Here are some key steps, but remember, this is your journey, and you set the pace.

1. Acknowledge and Honour Your Experience: The first step is simply acknowledging that you've been through something difficult. This act of self-recognition, while potentially painful, is incredibly powerful. It's about validating your experiences and giving yourself permission to feel what you feel.

2. Seek Guidance and Support: Healing is rarely a solo mission. Reaching out to a mental health professional specialising in trauma can provide invaluable support and guidance. Therapies such as Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) can be helpful, but it’s also about finding a therapist you connect with.

3. Find Your Community: Surround yourself with people who offer understanding, empathy, and support. This might include friends, family, support groups, or even online communities of fellow trauma survivors. Sharing your experiences with others who understand can be profoundly healing.

4. Nourish Yourself - Body, Soul and Spirit: Engage in activities that promote your physical, spiritual and emotional well-being. This might include prioritising sleep, indulging in hobbies and practicing mindfulness or guided prayer.

5. Develop Your Toolkit: Learn and practice coping techniques to manage stress and anxiety. Deep breathing exercises, grounding techniques, journaling, or progressive muscle relaxation can all be helpful tools in your emotional toolkit.

6. Patience and Self-Compassion: Healing takes time, and progress isn't always linear. Be compassionate toward yourself, acknowledge your small victories, and remember that setbacks are a normal part of the process.

7. Reclaim Your Power: Trauma can make us feel powerless, but we all have an inner power. Engage in activities that help you feel in control of your life. This might mean making choices that align with your values, or simply taking time for yourself.

The Path Ahead: Moving Forward

Overcoming trauma is a deeply personal journey. Remember that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. With time, support, and the right resources, it's possible not just to survive trauma, but to grow, thrive, and build a more resilient future.

If you're struggling, please know that you're not alone. Reach out to a mental health professional or a trusted support system. Your journey to healing starts with a single step, and every step forward is a victory.

Note: This blog post is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.